Healing from Trauma: Why is it so complex?

Healing from trauma is a complex and difficult process, and it’s difficult to do it alone sometimes. Trauma can affect us deeply and often changes the way we see the world, ourselves, and others. It can leave us feeling helpless, hopeless, and alone. That's why seeking help and support is so important.

Our upbringing and childhood experiences shape who we are today. The way we were treated, the values we were taught, and the experiences we had all contribute to our sense of self and our worldview. However, sometimes our needs weren't fully met during childhood, which can impact us in the present moment.

Unmet needs from childhood can include things like emotional neglect, physical neglect, and lack of support. When our needs aren't met as children, it can lead to a variety of issues later in life. These can include low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, difficulty forming healthy relationships, and a sense of emptiness or lack of fulfillment.

One of the ways that unmet needs from childhood can impact us is through our attachment style. Attachment theory suggests that the way we were cared for as children impacts our ability to form healthy attachments as adults. If we were neglected or mistreated as children, we may have difficulty forming healthy, secure attachments as adults.

Additionally, unmet needs from childhood can impact our sense of self-worth. If we didn't receive validation or support as children, we may struggle with feeling worthy or deserving of love and respect. This can impact our relationships with others and lead to a pattern of seeking validation from others rather than finding it within ourselves.

Unmet needs from childhood can also impact our ability to regulate our emotions. If we weren't taught healthy coping strategies as children, we may struggle with managing our emotions in adulthood. This can lead to issues with anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.

However, it's important to note that it's never too late to address unmet needs from childhood. Therapeutic coaching can be a helpful tool in working through childhood trauma and addressing any issues that may have arisen as a result. Additionally, practicing self-care and self-compassion can help us build a sense of self-worth and self-love that we may not have received as children.

In conclusion, unmet needs from childhood can impact us in a variety of ways in the present moment. However, with the right resources and support, we can work through childhood trauma and build a fulfilling, meaningful life. It's important to acknowledge the impact that our childhood experiences have had on us and take steps to address any issues that may be impacting our present moment.